In the movies, divorce is often portrayed as rancorous and dramatic, with loud arguments, angry accusations and vows to drag out the process as long as possible. In reality, some marriages end this way, but other times, there are few fireworks; one or both spouses simply decide that the marriage cannot be saved, and act to end it.
Of course, deciding to get divorced is just the first step. After that, the couple must try to settle matters like how to divide up the marital property, who will have custody of the children and so on. Depending on the spouses’ ability to work together, the divorce process can start out cordial and become emotionally taxing and difficult.
Fortunately, it appears people in Kentucky are pretty good at getting divorced with relatively little drama. An online survey that ranked each state and the District of Columbia by how often their divorces were amicable put Kentucky at 26, slightly below average but solidly in its “cordial” category.
By comparison, the company that conducted the survey ranked Alabama dead last. Surveyors said that couples there tended to fight over property and have “raging arguments over alimony,” LEX18 reports. Meanwhile, in state like Vermont, uncontested divorce is common, and some exes even remain friends afterward.
It is difficult to put aside hurt feelings and resentment, but divorcing couples who are able to collaborate on a settlement will find the process faster and easier than going to court. But court is a viable option when the sides cannot agree, or even sit at the same table anymore.