All of us who are active on social media have friends who seem to believe that nothing they experience, from a vacation to a breakfast, really happened unless they post a picture of it online. The “selfie” is especially popular with these folks, who apparently think that their friends are demanding daily self-portraits.
Most selfies are intended to show off in some way. “Here I am in front of some famous landmark, or with a celebrity!” But the desire to provide a visual record of one’s life sometimes crosses over into things you would not expect, such as divorce.
According to an article in Mediate, it appears that the “divorce selfie” has grown to the point that it is no longer a rare oddity online, but a regular topic. People regularly post pictures of themselves on Facebook announcing their divorce. On Instagram, there is even a hashtag, #divorceselfies, for people interesting in searching for such pictures.
There are about two dozen pictures under this hashtag. Several of them appear to advertise clothing, but a few show freshly divorced couples, smiling grinning or making funny faces. The implication seems to be that these couples remain close, even after deciding not to be married to each other anymore.
One such divorce selfie is not among them, but is perhaps the most well-known example, having been shared more than 30,000 times. It depicts a Canadian ex-couple smiling broadly as they pose in front of the courthouse’s sign.
It would be ideal if all divorcing couples could remain friends after the split, especially if they have children together. But online photographs do not always reflect reality. Spouses that can work together negotiating a divorce settlement do not necessarily feel like posing for pictures together afterward.