One of the common problems many Kentucky divorced parents face is how to implement rules that provide consistency for children living in two different households. Parents typically have differing belief systems on which rules should be established in shared custody situations and how strongly they should be enforced. However, if parents can develop a strategy to create normalcy between households, it can go far in helping the children adjust after the divorce.
Ideally, parents should sit down together and have a conversation about which rules will be enforced in both households. While the parents may undoubtedly struggle with communication issues, it is better to have the meeting in person so that everyone's feelings can be heard and understood. If the children are old enough, they could even take part in the discussion so they are assured of how important their opinion is, and they will feel as though they've contributed to the process.
Parents can also take a parenting class to get some guidance on the best way to establish rules in each household. Those who teach the parenting classes provide an outside, objective opinion that can help parents agree on solutions faster. Many courses focus on helping parents learn to compromise in certain areas, and they provide a very real education on what can happen to the children if agreements are not met.
Being flexible can also go a long way in helping to design a plan for enforcing rules in two homes. Parents should make a list of rules they feel strongly should be implemented and another list of those that are not as important. The willingness to give in certain areas can encourage an amiable working relationship between parents and can be very helpful in getting what each one wants.
Child custody situations are never easy, and the decisions made by the parents can have implications that will affect the children for years to come. The parents might want to have their respective attorneys lend a hand in negotiating a parenting plan that is in the children's best interests.